What do you think about naming your baby after the deceased?

My husband wants to name our 2nd son after his deceseased brother. His name was Charles %26amp; I do NOT like that name. MY husband says it would mean a lot to him. The first name we are thinking about is Trenton.


Wouldn't it be a good compromise to come up w/ a middle name that has meaning to his brother...?


Or...I found the name Chaz which is sometimes what they call people named Charles. What do you think??

What do you think about naming your baby after the deceased?
I don't think naming a child after a dead person is a good idea. The person will not know you're 'honouring' them and it won't bring them back. Your son needs his own identity. And if YOU don't like the name, it's your choice whether or not to give it to your son. Your husband can't force you to use the name.


You could give him a middle name which has the same meaning as Charles... and Chaz is a nickname, not really a given name.
Reply:My husband and i named our daughter lakin EmmaLee after his best friend closest thing he had to a brother he passed away in 2001 i love the name and i knew it ment a lot to my husband because Steven Lee was the closest person he ever had to him. Lee was in EmmaLee was for Steven Lee. If our daughter had been a boy his name was gonna be Stephen Eliziah. I know it means a lot i mean Lee in her name is also after my dad who past away in 2004. If we have another child i would love to name it after my dad or grandfather or if a girl my great grandmother. I don't think there is anything with naming somone after a person who has passed away that you loved very much and was very close to. Why not try incorporate the name into a differents name. Or in your case why not Charlie Trenton. Or something like that.
Reply:MAYBE AS THE MIDDLE NAME IT WOULD WORK!!
Reply:When i was pregnant with my son i wanted to name him Jackson Leo, but my husband hated his middle name (Leo) and didn't want his son to have a first name close to his which was Jack. We ended up naming him Patrick Edward with Edward being my father in laws middle name and my mothers maiden name. I am glad that I got that middle name and only wish I had stuck to my guns for the first name because in the past two years I have lost my husband, my father in law, my uncle, and one of my aunts. Honor your husbands feeling by naming your son Trenton Charles, which by the way sounds very nice together, and once you have the child you will appreciate what you have done.
Reply:i think it is great i am going to name my son after my brother that commited suicide but he was my life so i think its wonderful you could always put it as his middle name
Reply:What could be more honorable then to name your baby after someone who has passed. I think its wonderful. We have several nephews and one of our sons, who are named after family members who were dear to us, who have passed away. We wanted to honor them.
Reply:Charles Trenton or Trenton Charles. It shows honor and respect to his brother.





P.S. My brother's name is Charles Trenton





What about Charlie? Chaz is like a nickname.
Reply:since he is still grieving it means alot to him to honour his brother i think you should do it and Chaz is a fabulous funky name.
Reply:You are honouring the person who has died by using his name. Trenton Charles sounds like a great name for a boy. In some families this is a tradition that is expected. Hence, all of the Juniors and II and even IIIs.





The boy's name Charles \ch(ar)-les\ is pronounced charlz. It is of Old German origin, and its meaning is "free man". From "karl", similar to Old English "churl", meaning "man, serf". The first Holy Roman Emperor (seventh to eighth century) Charlemagne (Latin Carolus Magnus, meaning "Charles the Great") was a powerful Germanic leader who created a more ordered society out of the chaos that followed the fall of Rome. He united France and much of central Europe. His widespread fame gave rise to many forms of his name. Charles is the French variant of Carolus or Karolus, adopted by the English especially since the 17th-century reigns of kings Charles I and II. Charles and its variant forms have been favoured by the royalty of several countries, including the present Prince of Wales. Charlie and Charly are occasionally used for girls. See also Arlo. Naturalist Charles Darwin; French president Charles de Gaulle; author Charles Dickens; actor Charlie Chaplin; basketball player Charles Barkley.





Charles has 27 variant forms: Carel, Carl, Carlo, Carlos, Carrol, Carroll, Cary, Caryl, Chad, Charleson, Charley, Charlie, Charlot, Charls, Charlton, Charly, Chas, Chaz, Chick, Chip, Chuck, Karel, Karl, Karol, Karolek, Karolik and Karoly.
Reply:I think naming your son after his deceased uncle is a honorable, meaningful and unselfish thing to do. Your husband will appreciate it and so will your son. Wouldn't you want to know about your uncle if you were named after him and you never met him? People now are using several middle names so you might consider that. Anyway, he'll be called Trenton and most people won't know his middle name except the ones that are close and they will care about the meaning. Actually I think Trenton Charles flows very nicely. I think it's great that you are seeking opinions. Good luck.
Reply:Better to name your kid after a city in New Jersey than to honor your husband's memory of his brother. You must be some selfish witch.


I hope you can support yourself, one day it seems you'll need to when he's fed up enough.
Reply:How about Charlie? I don't like Chaz, sounds too nickname-ish, but Charlie is nice. Charlies is commonly used as a nickname for Charles





Trenton Charlies is nice
Reply:Charles is a nice middle name, go for that. I am sure that this is really important to your husband.
Reply:I think it is very nice to use family names that have special meaning. I think that doing with a middle name is always tasteful and is less awkward than using it as a first name. I think if it means a lot to your hubby you should be open to the idea. What about the brothers middle name......maybe you like it better than Charles..?





Trenton Charles actually flows well and has a nice ring to it.
Reply:I think it is a real nice tribute to name a baby after a loved one that has passed away.
Reply:I like the name Trenton Charles.. What was his brothers middle name? Maybe it could be Trenton (brothers middle name).





It would still be honoring him.
Reply:I name my child after my dead mother


I think like him have Trenton Charles


You can ask about Trenton Chaz, the worst he could say is no





Sometimes, you need to except that a person means the world to your spouse, and you need to let them name the child





I know a lot of people did not agree


I used my mom middle name


Charles what was his middle name


Maybe your husband can name you son after him buy using the middle name
Reply:Im naming my first girl after my deceased best friend. Im sure it would mean the world to your husband.
Reply:I think it's a nice way to honor people who were important to you.





It's not like most people frequently use their middle names, and it would obviously mean a lot to your husband. As long as you get input on the first name, I would personally cave and let Charles be the middle name. I'd be pretty upset with my husband if he refused to let me partially name a child we had after someone I had loved a lot who was gone just because he didn't like the way the name sounded.





Chaz is a pretty bad name, in my opinion. Charles is much, MUCH better.
Reply:It would mean a lot to your husband, besides Charles, Charlie, Chuck, Chaz, Carl and even Chas are all nicknames for it.





Your husband should have an equal say in what you name your son. After all you both made him.
Reply:Well, if this will mean alot to your husband, then use Charles as his middle name. And i don't like Chaz. That isn't a nice name, sorry.





But your son is your hubbys son to and should have some say/decision about his son's name as well.





And i think it's good idea, it isn't a bad thing. And no, the deceased will not know that you are honoring them, but your hubby and inlaws will and that will mean everything to them.
Reply:I think Trenton Charles sounds like a good name.